Reaction to " How to give orders like a man" by Deborah Tannen

There is always two ways to talk to people and how you should express yourself. In the essay "How to give orders like a man" by Deborah Tannen she express her concern with the multiples ways the world has on the way people talk. Around the world we can find different cultures that talk to each other on a direct or indirect form. In Japan people who are on a higher position decided how they want to express themselves to other people and if they would be direct or indirect depending the way the person’s character.

For example there is an example of a Japanese director of a private school here in America, that talks to her secretary on an indirect form, but without giving any please and thank you. He said to her that he tried to print a picture in black and white and in the place where he went to make the copy they could not do it. I guess what he was trying to say was that he needs her to make the copy and give him the black and white photo as soon as possible. How confusing?

In America we are not exempt of the indirect communication, "Many Americans find it evident that directness is logical and aligned with power while indirectness is akin to dishonesty and reflects subservience." (Deborah Tannen, How to give orders like a man). Fortunately that is not always true there is another example that Deborah gives on her essay; there is a business women that is the president of a company and talks to her secretary on an indirect form, that makes her look for some people as a weak president and others sees her as the sweetest boss ever.

Finally, the only way that I can see that all the cultures united is by saying that every person has to choose how they want to talk to others, just take care to do it with respect and being polite.